Psychodynamics of Alliance – Therapeutic Relationship Enhancement
This post includes basic considerations, processes, and clinical skills necessary for developing a strongly positive clinical alliance and therapeutic relationship in therapy. Here the alliance is required for any substantial change in psychotherapy, and the therapeutic relationship rides the quality of the initial alliance to expand and inter-penetrate the emotional b0nds between the client and the therapist. The combination of strong initial alliance and highly positive therapeutic relationship is a powerful enhancement for personal growth and positive change in therapy. However, it is doubtful that these factors alone will bring about meaningful change in the problem/s that brought the client into therapy. Without them, there will be no meaningful change.
Emotional Bonding and Therapeutic Presence Requires:
- Intentional empathic attachment by the therapist;
- Meaningful collaboration on important tasks and behaviors;

- Emotional exposure in safety, and emotional containment as needed;
- The client experiences being heard, cared about, and accepted unconditionally;
- The therapist provides a strong positive “holding environment” within “intersubjective space” (Winnicott);
- A social and psychological environment of mutual respect, compassion, and trust exists;
- The therapist may become a secure attachment (re-attachment) figure in this emotionally intimate process;
- The therapist’s “unconditional positive regard” is experienced and projected into the psychodynamic space (Rogers);
- The therapist may improve attunement with the client’s inner experience, emotions, and needs (Kohut); and,
- Within safety and trust both projection and projective identification occur (Alonso) as reciprocal introjective processes to ensure the potential for “going on being” (Winnicott).
Additional Specific Behaviors by the Therapist:
- Providing direct emotional support verbally and non-verbally;
- Holding a delicate balance in idealized projections;
- Rapid repair of emotional ruptures, and taking responsibility for same;
- Various forms of direct and indirect validation;
- Careful, strategic use of silence;
- Maintaining empathic understanding despite any negative countertransference;
- Working to improve “experience-near empathy” (Kohut);

- Acting on opportunities to improve the quality of object relations here and now;
- Serving as a “good mother” (or father) figure (Klein); and,
- Careful ongoing reflection on emotional, verbal, projective, transference, and countertransference processes.
Desired Self-Development Outcomes for the Client:
- Improved insight;
- Improved self-confidence and sense of security;
- Improved skills in mindful awareness;
- Reduced fixations on negative cognitive, emotional, and behavioral experiences in the past and present;
- Improved internal structure as well as object constancy and relatedness;
- More positive introjected experiences in therapy and in life;
- Reduced repetitive defensive and emotionally reactive patterns;
- Stronger, more positive sense of personhood; and,
- More effective views about self in the world of interpersonal life.
Caution: Most psychodynamic and psychoanalytic therapies place primary emphasis on the clinical relationship between the therapist and the client, and less emphasis on actual cognitive and behavioral change in presenting problems. Therefore, it may be a moral (not ethical) question as to whether a therapists uses only these approaches. It may be best to integrate them with a well researched evidence-based therapy. For supportive reviews see the work of Mark Solms, Edward Tronick, and C.A. Alfonso, R.C. Friedman, & J.I. Downey (Eds.) (2018). Advances in Psychodynamics Psychiatry. For a strong critique see Richards, A. (June, 2018). Psychoanalysis in trouble…Psychoanalytic Review, 102(3), June, 2018.
By David Rapp, Brian Tobin, and Anthony R. Quintiliani, PhD., LADC,
Author of Mindful Happiness
“experience near empathy” (Kohut), “unconditional positive regard” (Rogers), “hovering attention” (Freud), “the holding environment” in “intersubjective space” (Winnicott), and compassionate awareness to emotional distancing, separation, and dispassion is no easy task. In more in-depth clinical interactions, the process of projective identification between therapist and client may drain your emotional resources; sometimes being “as if” you were the experiencer of your client’s pain and suffering can take a serious toll on your own emotional resources. At time the therapist’s own emotional life lacks the quality of connection experienced in the therapy session. Success in setting emotional boundaries is a very important self-care skill. It may determine your success, failure, joy, or misery in the clinical work you do. It will definitely prevent most case of “burn out.”
helping skills. We suffer just like other people do. Hopefully, our training and experience have given us a bit of a positive edge here. Here are some things you may wish to consider to improve your own level of self-compassion.
be cured; nearly all professional groups believe it is a chronic, progressive disease/syndrome that can be managed. Recovery, of course, is quite possible; recovery, however, does not meet clinical criteria of a “cure.” 18% believed that recovery was hopeless once a person relapses after intervention. In reality, relapse is simply part of the recovery process and may indicate by its repetition how severe the addiction is (a brain-based, mind-body-spirit disorder). 55% had an opinion that a person with an addiction could not perform well at work. In reality this situation if quite variable. 42% to 47% of respondents would feel uncomfortable if a significant person (potential in-law, teacher, medical doctors) had an addiction. Well we all know how poorly informed the American public has been and still is about the realities of addictions. What is the problem here?
experience I supervised clinicians working with very difficult addiction clients. Most of them had to spend about 51% of their time documenting the work they did, while only 49% of their time or less was actually working with clients. It was common for people to go back to work on weekends to complete overdue paper/computer documentation. I often joke that to be an addictions counselor you need to fill out more paper and/or computer screens than to transport nuclear waste across state line or to buy a house. I think this may be true! I call this “Organic Bureaucracy,” where record keeping and management functions increase to the detriment of time with clients. Is it not the goal to help client learn skills and stabilize emotions so that they may enter recovery process? This requires TIME!
enhances client trust and courage – thus expanding their experimenting with new ways of being, thinking, and doing. A huge problem is establishing such a therapeutic relationship is the inability of some therapist to bond with diverse people – people not exactly like the therapist. Below I will present information from clinical and social psychology about
Orientation, Urban/Rural, Education, Environmental Exposure (good/bad), etc. Again, therapists who are highly mindful of these realities will do their best to integrate them into their work with clients. Good work here will improve the alliance and clinical outcomes.