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September 13, 2016 By Admin

Deep Love & Respect for Lost Loved Ones

Showing Deep Love & Respect Loved Ones Lost

This is a very brief post about love and respect for “lost loved ones” – those special people who have left their human body and mind behind.

Two Rituals

1) Loving Kindness Meditation for Lost Loved Ones

After breathing slowly and deeply for a few minutes in silence, meditate lovingly on the spirit of a lost loved one. When you are ready recite silently the following.

May you be SAFE.

May you be FREE FROM SUFFERING.

May you be at PEACE AND EQUANIMITY.

May you be HAPPIER without the continued existence of a suffering mind and body.

May you know that I WILL ALWAYS REMEMBER YOU.

May you KNOW THAT I WILL ALWAYS DEEPLY LOVE YOU. Now sit and reflect quietly.

2) Camp Fire Ritual for Lost Loved Ones – First Nations Inspiration

Sit quietly and breathe deeply and slowly for a few minutes.

Write the name of a lost loved one on a piece of paper, fold it and hold it in your hands – in prayer pose.

Now meaningfully place your prayer pose bands over your heart and FEEL it.

Recite silently the Loving Kindness Meditation above.

When you are ready commit the paper to the camp fire.

Sit quietly and reflect privately for a few minutes.

By Anthony R. Quintiliani, PhD., LADC

From the Eleanor R. Liebman Center for Secular Meditation in Monkton, Vermont

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