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July 22, 2019 By Admin

What The Buddha Taught About Metta

What The Buddha Taught About Metta

In the Metta Sutta (Anguttara Nikaya, 11:16) The Buddha said that we should seek the following characteristics in how we live our lives:

  1. Wholesome goodness;
  2. Gentle speech;
  3. Human Humility;
  4. Personal contentment;
  5. Personal calmness; and,
  6. Pure-heartedness in all we think, say, and do.

By living this way we would be most likely to find the true path to peace – inner and outer peace. On our life path, living these attributes day-to-day, we make conscious wishes (and actions) to support the following:

  1. We wish for ourselves and others to be safe;
  2. We wish to have positive thoughts;
  3. We wish for gladness in our safety and the safety of others;
  4. We wish all being to be at ease;
  5. We will cherish all living beings;
  6. We wish for us all to be freed from sense-desires;
  7. We will practice universal love; and,
  8. Living a life with all of the above will lead us to a liberated mind.

For more details refer to The Metta Sutta, Angutarra Nikaya, 11:16.

Anthony R. Quintiliani, PhD., LADC  

From the Eleanor R. Liebman Center for Secular Meditation in Monkton, Vermont and the Home of The Monkton SanghaChiYinYang_EleanorRLiebmanCenter

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March 29, 2015 By Admin

Happiness: One Path According to The Buddha

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In The Dhammapada the Buddha includes an important section on the topic of happiness.  How to be happy in a life of changing joy, suffering, and neutrality? How to be happy in a world of attachment/craving for desired pleasures and avoidance of all suffering?  Attachment, impermanence and unhelpful experiences – all cause suffering.  It is quite difficult to overcome these worldly realities.  The only way to overcome negative reactions is through the knowledge and use of the mind. The difficult practices of mind over emotions, compassion over self-interest, and equanimity over dysregulation are set up as comparisons between how an enlightened person lives versus how an unenlightened person lives.  Each of the Buddha’s statements below includes the fact that enlightened beings do not do what is typical in the world of samsara.  In fact, enlightened beings have life-long practices so they will not be typical.  So, remember that each statements noted comes with the suggestion that the enlightened person will be without a trait or tendency that is highly common in the world and its people.

Enlightened people who wish to be happy with live: without enmity, hatred, affliction, defilement, restlessness, sensual obstructions, dis-ease, unpleasantness, victory or defeat, fire-like passion, ill will, misery, distress, craving, grief, unwholesomeness, and foes.   Therefore, to be ultimately happy you must do your best to attain these outcomes of practice.  Consider these statements: Working on attainment of these conditions implies true happiness via the path to enlightenment – The Way. Or, as Buddha called it, the “pathway to the stars.”

The section ends with statements about the importance of personal health (psychological and physical implied), personal contentment with what is, and personal attainment of nibanna (enlightenment).  To live in the ways described above results in “world-transcending insight” on how to be in your life. The end product of these efforts is true happiness – an un-attached, un-craving, un-avoiding happiness.

Refer to Carter, J. R. and Palihawandana, M. (Trans.). (1987). Sacred Writings, Vol.6, The Dhammapada, Oxford, UK: Oxford University Press, pp. 254-261.

By Anthony R. Quintiliani, PhD., LADC

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