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May 26, 2018 By Admin

Meditating in the Gap of Nothingness

Meditating in the Gap of Nothingness

The Buddha taught about your four best friends, that is how the body changes physiology when you sit, stand, walk/move and every time you are lying down. Modern Western neuroscience now supports this statement of 2500+ years ago. Thich Nhat Hanh added the importance of your breath, walking meditation, and half-smile; these realities also change your physiology.  Jon Kabbat-Zinn added the importance of simply being present this moment, and making everything your teacher. The initial subtle changes are in anatomy and nervous tissue, then the brain takes over and the mind-body follows. So you have some very natural “best friends” to assist you in dealing with everyday challenges and suffering.

I have used regularly all of the above in my own practice. I have been especially fascinated with the power of the breath. The multitude of breathing techniques, and the ability to control my own arousal and calming with attention to changes in breath. In my years of practice I have found the quiet gap between breaths and thoughts – between all rising and falling perceptions of conscious awareness – too be especially helpful.  There is phenomena and there is the gap. As you rest in the utter silence of this special time and place, you are nearer to death than at any other time in your awakened states. There is nothing there, no movement, no breath, no life. All that exists in that quick moment is emptiness and vast boundless nothingness. Below I have noted the steps for meditating in your gap. Hope you will do this often.

  1. Sit in a comfortable meditation posture or do this while lying down on your back.
  2. Begin with a few soothing deep, long, slow breaths.  Continue!
  3. Now bring full attention to your breathing – its feel, its motion, its sensation.
  4. Just concentrate a bit on the moving breath in and out, deep and slow.
  5. Now with gentle attention notice the subtle reality of the gap between your in and out as well as you out and in breaths. The gap is in the middle way between the arising and falling of breath.
  6. You may also notice that when meditating you have thoughts; it helps to pay attention to the gap between thoughts rather than the content of thoughts. Just focus on the gaps.
  7. You may also notice that there is a gap between the arising and falling away of emotional awareness.
  8. For some finding the gap just before your ego-mind begins to evaluate an experience can be a real discovery.
  9. For some it would be helpful if you allowed the gap just before you speak harshly. Are the gap not the words.
  10. Now practice! No matter what the content is before or after the gap, ignore it all and focus only on the gap itself.
  11. No matter what comes into consciousness, just let it all go and stay with focused attention on the gap and its internal self-experience.
  12. Perhaps your gap has a color, or some depth, or some other characteristics that makes it more interesting. Just feel your attention there without judgment or evaluation of any kind. Just BE the gap!
  13. For some the gap is far away; great space and distance separates you from being in it. You just see it.
  14. If your gap is far away in the distance, does it appear as a distant and very large valley? What do you see?
  15. If your gap is close to you in space and time, are you silently being in it or moving into it?
  16. Is there silence or sound? If there is sound, what kind of things do you hear?
  17. Do you feel safe in the gap, or does it produce other feelings?
  18. Go as deep into the gap – your personal gap – as you feel comfortable with. Notice!
  19. Can you find peace, quiet, solitude, perhaps even self-love there?  Try it again!
  20. Continue your practice until you decide to stop or meditation time is over.

For more information refer to Bodian, S. (2017). Beyond Mindfulness: The Direct Approach to Peace, Happiness, and Love. Oakland, CA: Non-Duality Press/New Harbinger Publications, pp. 5-19.

Anthony R. Quintiliani, PhD., LADC

From the Eleanor R. Liebman Center for Secular Meditation in Monkton, Vermont and the Home of The Monkton SanghaChiYinYang_EleanorRLiebmanCenter

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January 23, 2015 By Admin

Using Breath as Your Object of Meditation

Breath as the Object of Meditation

 A Deeper Understanding

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In the Satipatthana Sutra the Buddha noted that meditation practice was necessary for success on the path to liberation and enlightenment.  He noted that it could take many, many years of practice to achieve this experiential goal.  The good news is that Buddha also noted it could take as little time as seven days of concentrated meditation practice.  Although this reality is highly unlikely, it may be possible.  Another important teaching included how to follow the middle way – neither indulgence nor asceticism, neither pleasant nor unpleasant.  Just stay in the middle – a central course without extremes! Part of his teaching included core information about suffering, suffering as the main unsatisfactory aspect of living.  According to these teachings impermanence, attachment, desire, craving, clinging, avoiding and unwholesome thinking or acting all cause suffering; if we cannot overcome these conditioned habits, we will continue to suffer.  The way out of being impacted by suffering is to practice meditation and the Eight Fold Path.

Here we sill review certain practices that use the breath as the focus of meditation attention.

The breath is a key basis for the foundation of mindfulness in the body.  

The practices are listed below.

1) You may practice one-pointed attention to the flow of your breath in and out just as it is.  Simply be mindfully aware of the breath.

2) You may continue to breathe freely, but now bring full attention to the flow of breath at the nostrils. In and out. In and out.  Feel the air move.

3) You may also count your breaths. This may help reduce distracted thinking.  By adding cognitive counting to the sensation of air flow more of the brain is focused on the breath.  A good practice is to count silently  from one to ten on the out-breath; hold the count until the end of the out-breath.  If you lose count, catch yourself thinking about something else, or find yourself at a higher number than ten, start over at one again.

4) You may add imagery to the counting. Simply make an image of the number you are on.  Hold both the sound of counting and the image until the end of the out-breath.  As you become more skilled, you may add other helpful images to your practice.

5) You may say silently a word or mantra that has some helpful meaning to you.  Say the word as you breathe.   The word “calm” may be helpful.  Or you may say “in” and “out” as you breathe. You can experiment until you find a helpful word to use.

6) You may pay attention to the feeling of the breath as it passes into and out of the chest area.  Such sensation practice helps to improve an important mindfulness skill called interoception. This skill may be helpful once you are well-practiced; interoception allows you to become aware of sometimes subtle sensations in the body that may signal the coming of something dissatisfying in the very near future.  With practice, you can use this skill as an early warning signal to mindfully respond to events rather than mindlessly reacting to them.

7) You may also follow the sensation, feel of the breath deep into the body.  Pay attention to where your attention goes as you breathe in and out.  Sometimes it is helpful to pay attention deep in the hara as the in-breath ends and the out-breath begins. The hara is located 2-3 inches below the navel and a bit into the body.

8) You may also practice sensing the sensation of the body filling on the in-breath and emptying on the out-breath.  In and out. In and out.  Filling and emptying. Filling and emptying.

9) You may practice by noting the impermanence of the breath. The in-breath ends, and the out-breath ends.  You will never have this same breath ever again.  It is pure impermanence.

10) Lastly, you may practice remaining in the present moment of the breath as you breathe in and out.  The present moment – not the past r the future – is your destination right now.  As you stay present, do your best NOT to judge or evaluate anything.  Be careful not to enter internal storylines and conversations about life.

Practice and be happy.  Breathe in and out. In and out.  May you breathe well. May you improve your meditation on the breath.  May you eventually become enlightened.

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Using Breath as Your Object of Meditation

For more information refer to Khema, A. (2014). Know Where You’re Going: A Complete Buddhist Guide to Meditation… Boston: Wisdom Publications.

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By Anthony R. Quintiliani, PhD., LADC

From the Eleanor R. Liebman Center for Secular Meditation in Monkton, VermontChiYinYang_EleanorRLiebmanCenter

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